Posted by: dannimoss | April 27, 2010

The Dangers of Excessive Stress

The linked article called, Why Stress is Detrimental gives a very good scientific overview of the effects of stress on the body. Stress is one of the primary, if not the primary, cause of serious physical health problems.

Posted by: dannimoss | April 6, 2009

Death and Life By the Tongue

By Danni Moss
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Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Prov. 18:21

It was a scary day when I realized this verse was literally true. I had lived in constant verbal abuse for nearly 20 years. For most of that time I had been hypervigilant to protect my children from physical abuse by their father, thinking physical abuse was the greatest danger in our home. Little did I know the verbal abuse was slowly killing me.

In school a few years later we studied the scientifically-verified physical affects of extreme stress. Science has proven that constantly triggering the fight-or-flight mechanism can produce chronic and life-threatening illnesses because it wears down, and eventually compromises, the immune system. This was what happened to me and I ended up with cancer.

When the Word says death and life are in the power of the tongue, it is not speaking metaphorically! The power of “death” spoken over us, or even spoken to ourselves by us either vocally or mentally, is dynamic. Those “mental tapes” can be just as destructive as having someone standing over us and literally cursing us.

However, this verse has an equally powerful opposite effect available. Life is in the power of the tongue as well.

There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. Prov. 12:18

We can choose life. We can choose to remove ourselves from those who speak death in our lives. We can choose to reprogram our own mental “death” tapes by renewing our minds in Christ. And we can choose to speak the life of truth in our own lives – with the fruit of literal life available as a result. This is what the Word says! …the tongue of the wise is health!

We can attempt to do this by speaking affirmations to ourselves. This is a technique advocated my many natural health practitioners, success gurus, and various religions. However, as believers we have a far more powerful tool available.

The Word says Jesus is life. The Bible also says Jesus is the Word. What better way to speak life into our existence than by discovering and speaking the truth of the Word as it relates to our lives?

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

The same was in the beginning with God.

All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.

In him was life; and the life was the light of men. Jn 1:1-4

The words of the Word have the power to bring and sustain life. We can choose what words we will entertain in our minds and hearts as the truth about us. Will it be the words spoken by abusers or by our own minds based on past hurts? Or will it be the words of the Word, that have the power to bring life?

Posted by: dannimoss | April 6, 2009

What My Doctors Said About Illness and Abuse

This article was originally published on the New Hope Outreach blog. However, it is powerfully relevant to the development and mission of this site, so we are republishing it here as well.


By Sharon Merhalski

I am a survivor of childhood abuse: every kind of abuse from my mother (22% of pedophiles are women) and sexual abuse from my brother. As an abused child I experienced a childhood of illnesses. I now understand illness is an expected scenario given the constant internal and external stress an abused child (and children raised in domestic violence) carries. And I now understand until abuse issues are dealt with and healed, that internal stress cannot be alleviated, resulting in continued illness in the adult years.

I believe the Bible gives plain affirmation on this subject (words inside parenthesis are definitions for the previous word from the Strong’s Concordance).

Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire (longing) cometh, it is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12

A victim living in an abusive situation constantly hopes the abuse will end. When they are separated from the abuse by age or living situation there is usually an internal longing (especially with child abuse)–hope for a healthy relationship with the abusive parent. When hope longed for doesn’t happen the Bible says it makes their heart (feelings, the will and even the intellect) sick (be weak, sick, afflicted, cause to grieve, diseased, put in pain, be wounded) If our feelings, will and intellect are sick we are under extreme stress and on our way to physical illness.

In spring of 1984 I was 35 years old. I had severe allergies requiring weekly allergy injections and a lot of allergy medication. I was always fatigued, in bed a lot of the time, fought sinus and bronchial infections and yeast infections constantly and was an overall miserable mess.

In September of 1984 I came to a crossroad in my spiritual and emotional life that ended in my allowing God to take my very damaged heart and emotions and heal them with His Word. About six months into this lengthy process my allergies were so minimal that I no longer required allergy shots and I seldom took allergy medications. By mid-1985 the sinus infections and yeast infections were few and far between. The bronchial infections maybe happened once a year.

At this time I began to see a licensed physician who is a dear Christian man. He was the first doctor I asked about the ‘coincidence’ of my emotional healing and healing from allergies and infections. I remember clearly his saying to me it was no ‘coincidence’ and then teaching me about inner stress. He assured me what I experienced was a normal reaction to my internal healing. Since then I have asked two other physicians the same question and received the same answers.

In the last twenty-plus years I have been entrusted by God to both counsel and work with many women who are survivors of abuse…child abuse and/or domestic violence. The pattern I have observed is almost all of the women with unresolved/unhealed issues have been physically ill in some way…from allergies to cancer. And, those women whom I have observed through their personal spiritual and emotional healing process have experienced a lessening, if not total healing of their physical illnesses, i.e. arthritis, allergies, repeated infections, stomach and/or bowel problems, Candida/yeast infections, etc. I have always been very thankful I can share with each woman why their health was improving…using the words of my physicians—my Heavenly physician/Jehovah-Rapha and my earthly physicans–spoken to me. (The Bible has much to say on this subject.)

A few years ago I began to find research on this perceived ‘phenomenon’ of relieved stress and healing. Recently there has been much research done on this subject. I now understand fully the reasons for an increase in health when there is a decrease in stress…internal stress and external stress.

If you are a survivor or victim of abuse, or know a survivor or victim of abuse, I hope you will assimilate this information for yourself and/or pass it along to others.

Links to articles and research about the connection between abuse and illness.

Posted by: dannimoss | February 23, 2009

Welcome to Choosing to be Well

This site is born out of the personal quests of two women — seeking answers for chronic health problems resulting from abuse.

We believe that wellness is dependent on the health of the mind, body, and spirit. While some feel this is a “Chinese medicine” thing, or a “New Age” thing, or whatever, we disagree. We believe it is not only consistent with, but plainly taught in, our own Christian faith.

As a result, we have sought for wisdom, direction and understanding from both the Bible and science. This site is a place for us to share what we are learning, in the hopes that it may bring help and encouragement to others walking the same path.